family studies: 11-24-2021 post

https://www.film-shorts.tv/wpress.cfonseca160/blog/2021/11/24-family-studies/

This blog post, is a short one about gender.

I have a “bone to pick” (strange way to say “criticism”). I guess that “picking a bone” references picking off some of the meat, otherwise attached to the clean bone. Yes, this one is aimed at most spouse females (no, am not sorry to say it).

I do have more criticisms; and, they are deserved critique too. Some of the things I’m hearing them say, elicit the way some of them (many of them) think. But, I’ll limit this post to just one observation today:

Women tell men to go see their doctor (even if it’s not even close to imminently necessary). And, often when it is, you bog us down with so many responsibilities that we can’t even get to our doctor when we want to. Even, if the patient-doctor-terms of the office or clinic are ridiculous to any reasonable person and/or stress inducing at a minimum. A man might be suffering from one ailment, and a woman will try to insist that he get checked out for something entirely different. Or, a man will be healthy and yet the woman will still at a particular time insist that he get checked out for something (fill in whatever). Yes, women, you’ve managed to politicize and to dominate health”care”. Many of you have successfully diverted attention away from your narcissism.

And, often, the motive? First, if the symptoms are even truly related to the apparent concern, it will be to keep the man serving her own supportive needs rather than to benefit his own satisfaction of life. Fair criticism?

Sometimes, this aim of getting the man to the doctor: to satisfy the bottom dollar (money-wallet or purse) of a particular doctor or (en-vogue medical discipline). Or, there are other motives that are less obvious to a weak or unsuspecting husband. And, true, many men try to pressure other men in the same way (to please women). Also true: there are many wonderful female nurses who exhibit the right motivation and selfless ability. Most of those who do, covet their Christian faith (or other altruistic beliefs).

This post, however, is centered on a more specific observation of mine:
Women will blame a man’s lifestyle (even if it’s inconsequential to poor health) for his health “condition” (whatever it might be). This usually stems from a woman’s lack of medical knowledge. And, yes, I understand that some people live unhealthful lives. But, the woman will in most cases be the first to deny that SHE is responsible for the man’s health condition. It’s never the woman’s fault, right? Even if she’s to blame for a genuine male health condition! Wrong.

Yes, women do cause heart attacks. Yes, American women do cause American men to undergo tremendous stress, or, life-threatening circumstances. Oh, but women are so repressed in America. (Not true). Now I realize I would be in err to generalize on this topic. I find many women delightful and unlike as I’m describing. I also prefer to be around a certain kind of woman more than a certain kind of man. So, I am certainly not gender biased. Anyone who judges you based on your gender, is foolish. Also, true, most chauvinism is dished out “in good fun”, to restore healthy balance. If that goes to an extreme, there’s no more fun in it any longer (anyway) – for me. I don’t take pleasure in abuse. And, a woman’s ridicule has limited positive effect too on her man (if any at all).

Should I go see a doctor? Gee, maybe the doctor will prescribe to the man: some sort of mens’ group? That is unlikely to happen. Who else can replace you, anyway? The truth is no one can, until your dead. The lie is that anyone else can, while you’re alive. If you agree with me, marriage is preordained by God.

I know, men don’t always make the healthiest decisions for their own body; I understand that argument too. That often cuts both ways. Just look at many mens’ and many womens’ health condition and/or appearance, for the evidence that poor health and disease strike both gender. But, maybe men are more selfless in nature, than women are? He might put himself at greater risk when a woman would not. Many women would rarely submit to that notion out loud. I see a lot of evidence supporting male selflessness than ever before. Granted, many women perform selfless acts too. Many of them claim to daily. The expectations for men have increased considerably though. We’re expected to never tell them that they’re wrong, be fathers who never discipline the kids (which, by the way, can be a sign of neglect), expected to be super-lovers at-command (even when not aroused), brutal enough to kill any trespasser, gentle enough to tolerate LGBTQ+, but not so queer that we cross-dress or parade with gays, rich enough to do whatever the woman wants, but poor enough to remember that Christ was born in a stable. Yes, friends, absurdity takes many extreme views and polar opposites which cannot coexist. A man cannot be all things, to all people. It’s just not practical or reality.

When the statistics start reflecting that women are dying earlier than men [and recent studies show this trend to emerge in some diseases], then I’ll start listening more to their complaints about how difficult their lives are (as compared to males).

Welcome to equality. Where criticisms must be heard.